Skinny people envy. Have you ever had it?

Why is it so hard for us not to envy skinny people? Why are we resenting this subgroup of ideal weight humans for their ability to eat whatever they want and not gain an ounce? Grrrr!

In episode 35 of our Thin Thinking podcast, we will be exploring this resentment that we often have with this group of people and how this belief may actually keep us struggling with our weight.

As we unpack this sensitive topic, I hope that we will be able to reframe our views of skinny people and help ourselves towards our own weight mastery.

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Rita Black: Skinny envy. Have you ever had it? Sometimes, it's just so hard not to envy skinny people and the easy way they seem to be able to eat anything and not gain weight. In this episode, we explore this belief about this subgroup of ideal weight humans and how this belief may actually keep us struggling with our weight. So stay tuned.

Rita Black: Did you know that our struggle with weight doesn't start with the food on your plate or get fixed in the gym? 80% of our weight struggle is mental. That's right, the key to unlocking long-term weight release and management begins in your mind. Hi there, I'm Rita Black. I'm a clinical hypnotherapist, weight loss expert, best-selling author, and the creator of the Shift Weight Mastery Process. And not only have I helped thousands of people over the past 20 years achieve long-term weight mastery, I am also a former weight struggler, carb addict, and binge eater. And after two decades of failed diets and fad weight loss programs, I lost 40 pounds with the help of hypnosis. Not only did I release all that weight, I have kept it off for 25 years. Enter the Thin Thinking Podcast where you too will learn how to remove the mental roadblocks that keep you struggling. I'll give you the thin thinking tools, skills, and insights to help you develop the mindset you need. Not only to achieve your ideal weight, but to stay there long-term and live your best life. Sound good. Let's get started.

Rita Black: Hey everybody. I hope you are all well and staying healthy this month because it's getting cold. So don't hate me here in California. I think it is still cold here, although my cold is relative to your cold, if you are in a colder place than Southern California. You know, a little funny side note when I moved to Los Angeles in. gosh, when was that? The, it was the November of 1992 long time ago. And we got off the plane and I remember I was like in a t-shirt, and no coat or anything. And I thought it was warm and everybody around me was wearing coats and, you know, like almost shivering, they just looked so cold. And my husband and I kind of looked at each other and we were like, what the hell? These people are the biggest wimps in the world. It is not cold. It is warm compared to London. But sure enough, a year later we had acclimated and we were wearing those coats and shivering along with everybody else.

Rita Black: So you may have mild winter weather envy of me and I don't blame you. I am lucky I do live in a great place, but then I have, you know, snow envy of you. My, my, my lovely son, who is, you know, 16, he wants to move, you know, when he goes to college, he wants to go, I want to go somewhere that, you know, isn't dusty like California. And I wanna, you know, go somewhere where it's snowing, you know? So he has a little shock ahead. I think he goes to college and it's cold every day, not just like one fun snow day. But anyway, but you know, people who live in the snow, they get used to it and they love it. So, you know, we, you can resent me for my, you know, my mild weather, my wild winter weather, but, you know, we're, as we're going to talk about, resentment is an interesting emotion and it can be fattening, you know, whether, and it can kind of trip us up a little bit as we talk about, and I'm going to go there today.

Rita Black: I'm going to talk about skinny people envy and resentment, and, you know, even bringing up the word, skinny people, even me, I'm like, you know, I've been managing my weight for 25 years and it brings up a little feeling in me and I tested this out because I wasn't sure if I should do this episode. You know, cause I was like, gosh, maybe like, I think people have skinny people envy because I hear from my clients or, you know, I'll do a shift weight mastery process live, you know, when I used to do it live, we do it primarily online now, but when I would do my live events, you know, I would say skinny people, like, you know, like, you know, the put up the, you know, two finger, you know, get away from me with skinny people already. You know, there's a visceral, audible grown in the room when we brought up the word skinny people. So I, you know, really our resentment in skinny people is understood and founded. I mean, you know, gosh, they're so skinny and they get to eat all they want, but I want to dive into this today because I really do believe that our resentment only hurts us more and keeps us in a place of weight struggles. So I'm going to kind of unpack this a little bit.

Rita Black: First of all, it's just like, you know, why do we hate skinny people so much? Well, they can eat whatever they want and never gain weight, right? The bastards, how dare they. So, and this, you know, is a pretty commonly held belief by all of us who are not so naturally blessed, not so naturally skinny and look at how this belief about skinny people can, you know, like I said, keep us in our weight struggle. So, let's talk about our struggler identity. You know, I've talked about this on the podcast before, but I'm going to bring it back. Well, first of all, for those of you who haven't heard me talk about our identity, but you know, it's always important to remember that, you know, in our subconscious mind, one of the highest level things in our subconscious mind is our identity. And we all have lots of identities, you know, I'm a Southern Californian, I'm a mom, I'm a hypnotherapist, I'm a former weight struggler, I'm a weight master, I am a gardener, you know, I'm a, you know, I, I'm a dog owner, you know, I'm a lot of things and all of those things kind of swirled together in my subconscious mind and create my idea of me. Now, when we struggle with our weight, we live in this world of weight struggle and weight struggler is one of our identities. You know, you might not consciously be saying I'm a weight struggler, but we see ourselves in a particular way. And it's usually not as a skinny person living their life out in the world. We see ourselves as struggling, you know, and usually we are holding onto hard held beliefs, right? And over time, our struggler identity grows and we collect evidence for this identity and this kind of weight struggle world we live in, like, I don't have a good metabolism and I have a huge appetite or I can't eat the food I love because it makes me fat or it's hard for me to lose weight or, you know, I hear people say all the time, like I eat one thing and I gained 10 pounds or I look at food and I gained weight.

Rita Black: And then there comes skinny people, right? So here we are in our weight struggler world. And then we interact with skinny people, skinny people, skinny people, skinny people, skinny people. It just kind of rolls off the tongue, right? Skinny people. I could say another word. I think there's a brand, a skinny B a, you know, and a few other things, but I'm not going to say that because I'm not, I'm not here to protect skinny people, but I'm not here to bring them down either. I'm here to make peace with skinny people and why, not for skinny peoples' sake, but for yours. So, skinny people are seemingly our polar opposite. They are the yin to our yang. They're the thin to our fat. And it seems just so, gosh, darn easy for them. It just seems so fricking effortless. And we just start to compare ourselves to them and despair. But here's the thing, the more we envy or hate them for having it easy than more, it defines us as a struggler.

Rita Black: So, there was this girl, Sarah in my high school. And, you know, I was an overweight teenager in high school right? I spent most of my high school years wearing, you know, the stretchy, elastic waist jeans, and, you know, not looking like high fashion was just say. You know, I was probably, well, I know I was 25 pounds to 30 pounds overweight during high school and that's, you know, horrible, awful, you know, it was, it was horrible. And Sarah was one of these beautiful girls, you know, the, the one, she was a cheerleader of course. And she just had, you know, it seemed like the perfect slim figure. And she, you know, she was kind of from an affluent family. So she, her clothes, she wore, they were so beautiful. She would wear these beautiful, like jeans with the rhinestones. And the more, you know, this was the seventies folks. So you can just, or the flare legs, you know, and the cute little thing, you know, shirts and everything hung so well on her. And it just did not hang on me. In fact, the only thing hanging on me was fat. And my thighs hanging over the chair while hers, you know, fit into the chair easily in French class, I would look at her. I would just go, God, she's got it so easy. Like ,she probably goes home and it's just so easy for, and the one thing would be, I would watch her eat at the lunch room because, you know, I was always on a diet and I would, you know, like they had a salad bar at my high school. If you could call it a salad bar, you know, it was like iceberg lettuce chopped up with a side bowl of cheddar cheese and ranch dressing and a few cherry tomatoes and maybe some chopped up shallots or not shallots, but scallions green onions.

Rita Black: So anyway, I would get my little salad, sad salad and sit there and I would watch her chow down like four or 3, 3, 3 or four pieces of pizza like, and she's talking to all the boys eaten the pizza and God, I hated her so much, you know, and she was smart, you know, she had it all. Okay. So she could, she was sitting with the football players eating like a football player. And here she was like a skinny as a rail and she looked awesome. And so here was my inner speech. She's so lucky and I'm a fricking jerk. Now, if you've worked with me or have gone through the shift weight mastery process, the one thing that we really work very hard on is struggling, you know, shedding, shedding, shedding, our weight struggler identity and stepping into a new identity as a student of weight mastery, because that immediately opens up our brain and makes us creative and think differently. It, it, it puts us outside of the box that we live in because I really believe in there like our, we have a mental box of struggle that is comprised of our beliefs and our habits and our identity. So when we begun, we step out of that old box and step into this identity of a student weight mastery. It opens up our mind and we start to see the world from a different place. And we start to see ourselves from a different place. We start to see food and exercise from a different place, and we aren't struggling with it anymore. We're learning to interact with it powerfully and ourselves powerfully as well.

Rita Black: So, I want to look at the skinny people from a thin thinking perspective and start to poke holes in these beliefs so that we have some power and we can step outside of that box that we're in. So, here's the belief: skinny people can eat whatever food they want and stay slim. So let's unpack this. Okay. So here's a fact, some people, some skinny people can eat a lot of crap foods and not gain weight. Yes. There are those who have either a high metabolism or they say tidy and hunger hormones work in their favor, meaning their hormones are rigged in such a way that they feel full right away or they don't get as hungry. So, there are those out there, but those people are only about 10 to 15% of the population. That's not a lot of people out there. A lot of these skinny people that may seem blessed with a super high metabolism or hormones that are rigged in their favor, the, they actually struggle with eating and how do I know this? Because they come to me and they might say, you know, I want to eat a better diet. Like I've been eating a bunch of crap for years and years and years cause I can, but now I'm addicted to those foods. And I feel trapped in this relationship with junk food, drive-through food. And all they want to do is eat vegetables. They just want to be able to eat a healthy diet because it, believe it or not, even the fact that they aren't gaining weight because they're eating all this crap, it makes them feel bad. It makes them feel like crap. It makes them feel out of control and miserable. So, even though this 10% of the population can eat what they want, many are not necessarily partying down or happy about it. They have their own cross to bear with food.

Rita Black: Now, in addition, eating junk just doesn't lead to weight gain, right? It can create cancer, heart disease, pre-diabetes, Alzheimer's, dementia and that hurts everybody, heavy or thin. Right? So, some people also who are skinny struggled to keep the weight on, I mean, seriously struggled to keep the weight on. And again, it might seem, oh, well, they're lucky they can drink three milkshakes and not gain an ounce. But these people, a lot of them are very ashamed of their bodies because they are so thin. They have almost the opposite thing with us at the beach. They're, you know, they cover themselves up because they're so thin. So, it does swing both ways. They're, you know, thin people, but they're, they've got their own cross to bear.

Rita Black: Now, of course you may say, but Rita, certainly there is more than 10 to 15% of the population that is then. So let's discuss those other skinny people. There is a pretty big segment of the population that is also thin, but they don't fall into that 10 to 15%, super high metabolism or hormones rigged in the right way. There is just some thin people who have always been thin, but they work at staying slim. Now, how do I know this so well. Well, whether or not, you know me or you don't, I have been, you know, seeing people as hypnotherapists for over 20 years and I'm also somebody who's struggled with my own weight up and down the scale 40 pounds. So I'm highly interested in intrigued by everybody's journey with food and exercise and how they take care of themselves. So I work with people who do not struggle with weight. I work with smokers, but I also work with a large amount of people who are, you know, looking for other help. But, I ask everybody, I say, so what do you do? Do you do anything like, you know, you seem like a pretty healthy looking person. Are you doing anything to manage your weight? Or I might, you know, say to somebody, are you, you know, you tell me more about how you're feeding yourself. Cause you know, that I'm just kind of curious. I, I like to know how people take care of themselves.

Rita Black: So, and I will tell you that probably 85% of these people have an answer for me. It's not like they're saying, oh, you know, I just wake up and I eat a croissant. And then, you know, I go and get a hamburger for lunch. And you know, they have got a program that they're working and I don't mean a program outside themselves, but they've figured out some rules for themselves in their relationship to school. And these people I'm in relationship to food. And these people have never struggled with their weight, but they have, they recognized that in order to stay slim, you know, they were blessed to be thin growing up, but they recognized as they became adults and their metabolism began to slow down, they needed to moderate the way that they were eating in order to stay healthy and slim, or maybe not so healthy, but slim. So I would get answers all the time. Like, I don't eat sugar or I eat one meal a day or I exercise every single day or I don't eat gluten or I don't need in between meals. You know, there was, there are those, they would sit down and just go, let me tell you what I've figured out. You know, the people love to talk about the way they eat and take care of themselves, right?

Rita Black: So they're thin and maybe they've never struggled, but they have a plan to stay thin and they work their plan. This world is full of food. Haven't you noticed there are food signals on television. There are food signals in social media, there's food signals in magazines and on billboards and everywhere we look. We are bombarded with imagery of food. Now, even slim, people have to manage that in some way, in some sort of internal mechanism system are, you know, a way of operating in the world or else they begin to gain weight. Now, these often people are exercising or they're just, you know, like I said, they've made, see, I eat two meals a day. I don't need in between whatever it is, they are managing this. What I want you to understand is they are managing their weight. You know, I think we think when we struggle with our weight, that everybody's lucky and nobody has to think about this stuff. Nobody has to worry about the gym. They just go to the gym to look good in their clothes. Nobody has to, you know, think about what they're planning. They don't have to plan what they're eating for the week or think of, you know, or make healthy choices when they go to the restaurant. And that's absolutely not true. And when we think that it makes us a victim, it makes us a victim and it makes us think of that type of eating, taking care of ourselves, having to manage our weight as a negative thing rather than a powerful thing.

Rita Black: And, I think we have an opinion about these people, you know, and I think we look at skinny people who are focused on health and focused on their weight and focused on eating in a particular way. I think we call them obsessive. I think we call them health nuts. You know, we have terms for that. And I'm not saying that some of these people might be going overboard and have, you know, certainly there are a number of thin people who have eating disorders, what have you, but a large percent of the population has just figured out a way of eating that works for them. And they work their program. And to have an opinion about them like they're obsessive or they're health nuts hurts you, it doesn't hurt them. You know, we want to create a loving and nurturing relationship with food. And if we are creating a subconscious negative feeling about people who are healthy and focused and slim, then doesn't that negatively impact our internal feeling, our subconscious feeling about wanting to be healthy and slim ourselves? We're creating healthy and slim as a negative idea in our subconscious mind. I don't know, isn't that food for thought. Our opinion about slim and healthy people are negative opinion. Our resentment might be creating this negative idea of being slim for ourselves, where we have an aversion to that.

Rita Black: I'm just starting to point out how our seemingly innocent or well-deserved beliefs about how annoying people are that are thin. They might be hurting us. And it's easy to make assumptions about thin people. For instance, you might know a thin person who can chow down in front of you. Here they are eating a burger and fries and are wearing a pair of skinny jeans while you're eating a salad and feeling a little full. And, you know, maybe you're wearing a relaxed fit jeans and it may seem unfair. Like why can they chow down on all this food? And I have to eat a salad, and I'm still struggling with my weight. But maybe you don't know the whole story. Maybe they aren't, they didn't eat anything earlier that day. Or maybe they're not going to eat again until tomorrow afternoon. You know, we don't always know the full story when we see a thin person chowing down on food.

Rita Black: For example, remember that cheerleader, Sarah, that I was talking about, you know, she could chow down three or four slices of pizza for lunch, and probably that equals about 1200 calories for lunch, right? So this is a fair amount of calories, but maybe she didn't eat breakfast. And definitely she was going to go for a three hour cheerleading practice after school that would burn a good portion of those calories. Me, I ate my measly salad for lunch, but I went home and I made a batch of cookie dough to drown my sorrows about how lucky Sarah was and how lucky I was. And then I would fall into a sugar coma nap and not move at all for the rest of the afternoon. And by the time 5:00 PM rolled around, Sarah, Sarah had burned off two thirds of the pizza calories and was netting about 400 calories. Me with the cookie dough, and the zero exercise netting about 3000 calories. See, all my resentment of Sarah being so lucky that resentment hurt me. It didn't hurt her. She was off to cheerleading practice. She named and think for a second about me, but I was hurting myself with that resentment. And often, you know, our resentment is a very fattening emotion and we eat over it. So, can you see how our skinny people are lucky because they can eat anything they want assumption can be damaging to us.

Rita Black: You know, the media puts a lot of false images that perpetuate this as well. It's not all our fault. Look, it's not your fault. We're thrown to this. And we are surrounded in a role that gives us false images and, you know, really does favor thin people in the media images that we see. So we see people with food items in their hand chowing down who looks skinny and slim, but that's probably not the whole truth. You know? For instance, I read it in a, you know, trashy magazine, yes. Trashy magazine. I read an, a people or an okay magazine that, and I'm not going to mention their name, but you'll probably know who I'm talking about, but this was in a magazine. So I'm not like, divulging anything that's secret or new. But I read in this magazine that a very popular food network chef, who is a slim, lovely Italian woman. You know, she looks skinny. She is skinny, she's lovely and firm. And you know, it has a big smile on her face and she eats all these amazing pastas and tiramisu. And you just see her chowing down on all this food that she's made, looking happy, licking her lips. And you just think, gosh, that's so unfair. She's so beautiful. And she can eat all that Italian food and never gain an ounce. Well, come to find out there's a spit bucket right on the side. And as soon as the tape is done, she spits that food out into the spit bucket. She is working her program. She is not consuming all of those calories. And she probably, you know, let's face, it gets sick of that. You know, how many bites of pasta can you eat? Well, maybe a lot, but, you know, she probably gets a little sick of that food anyway. But the point I'm making is there's an illusion out there that slim people have it easy. They all get to eat all the tiramisu they want. And, you know, we're, we look at tiramisu and we gained five pounds and that's not always the whole story.

Rita Black: So, there's a lot of crazy ideas floating around these days. So let's take our power back, shall we? From the weight struggler beliefs and emotions and comment at this. Instead as people who respect themselves, who are mastering their weight and creating a powerful change where we take 100% responsibility for our bodies and what they do and ourselves and our relationship with food and create a more powerful relationship with skinny people. Let's set them free to set ourselves free. Shall we?

Rita Black: So, here are some facts. Yes. Some people can eat what they want and it doesn't make them healthy or happy. And some skinny people work at staying skinny. And some people work at being skinny or don't work at being skinny and can eat whatever they want. But after the age of 40, they begin gaining weight. And because their metabolism has finally slowed down and I get a lot of those people who come to see me, and they're all of a sudden why I miss what's happening. I'm gaining weight, I'm eating the same amount of food and their metabolism has slowed down. So I have to laugh because I've gone to some high school reunions and all those skinny girls and beyond who I envied and I was jealous of at my, what was it, my last reunion I went and because this I'm coming to up to another reunion year, this coming year I'm class of 82. So, so it was, you know, 10, almost 10 years ago. So, it was that my 30th, it must've been my 30th, well, 30th. Yeah. It must have been 30th. I think it's my 40th coming up. Wow. Anyway, they were heavier set, you know, and, and I, it was interesting because it was, it was a real interesting thing for me to see that, you know, like it was kind of like ghosts were led out of my closet, like these demons. Though what was interesting was my journey with food, my ownership of food, my, I had to work my relationship with food much earlier in my life. So, when I got into my forties, I was okay. I knew how to manage my weight and I didn't gain weight during menopause. I, I stayed the same, but these women who were my peers in high school, who are my skinny peers, they were now having to figure that out. And some of them weren't so successful. And some of them I could tell felt really bad about themselves.

Rita Black: So it's interesting, isn't it? And ironic that these things get turned around, but we give it so much power. So here's my three recommendations to start to change your relationship with skinny people. Number one, stop giving your power away by resenting skinny people. It makes us a victim. It makes us a have-not person. You know, it doesn't work for us. And, you are not a have-not, that's not true. You are a powerful person, and there is a lot you have, that would make those skinny people jealous of you. If you would just wake up to that and who, and you know, and use gratitude as a way to keep yourself grounded in your life, right? Look at what you've got and look at all of who you are and all the amazing things that you do and really give yourself credit. And it also takes away your power for you to fall into that negative belief that eating whatever you want makes you happy. It doesn't. Eating refined food, junk food, fast food, no matter what you weigh, takes your power and your health away. And that's just the truth. So focus on eating a healthy way of eating that allows you to, for treats that keeps you feeling good and vibrant, you know, and that has some junk food and fast food thrown in here and there, you can do that, but you know, that's focused on you feeling good in your skin. You feeling good in your body that allows you to release weight and love yourself down the scale. Don't deprive or punish yourself or envy yourself down the scale. You're too good for that.

Rita Black: Now. Number two, forgive, forgive those skinny people. I'm going to say it, forgive him, forgive him, let the resentment go. Just, let's all. Take a deep collective breath. Let the love in your heart for the skinniest person you know, the person who looks the most amazing in their clothes and give them some love. You know, there is a saying, I love, I've probably mentioned it before. Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Right? Skinny people aren't really suffering because you resent them, but you are. Take back your power from the skinny people and forgive them. They're just off living their skinny lives while you or me or all of us, you know? Well, definitely me with that girl, Sarah, you know, ate all my resentment and it looks like a batch of raw cookie dough. Let's just say it. I forgive you, skinny people. I forgive you, skinny people. I forgive you. I love, I feel the love in my heart for you. You will be, you know, and, and love yourself and accept yourself as you get slimmer and slimmer because you've accepted this idea of being slimmer as a positive things. You, you've neutralized it in your mind because you've let that forgiveness in your heart. Embrace those slim people.

Rita Black: Alright, three, get curious. What can skinny people teach you? All right? This is a good one. Believe me. They have taught me a lot. Once I loved and embraced thin people and let go of the resentment, I saw that there were things that they were doing. They were good and I can use them. So for instance, I had a friend who was skinny, never struggled with her weight. And my jaw dropped when we went to a restaurant, a Mexican restaurant, and she told the waiter, she said, I only want half of a basket of chips. Don't give me a full basket of chips. So take this full basket away and bring me half a basket place. She was nice to him, but you know, she was clear. And I was like, why did you do that? And she's like, look, you know, let's be real. I, we would both eat this entire basket of chips. And the problem is that then when my food came, I wouldn't enjoy my food cause I'd already feel gross and full. And I liked to eat. I liked the taste of my food and if I eat those chips, it's going to dull the taste of my food. And that was a real revelation to me because I was, I realized that, you know, she could probably eat the basket of chips and her food, but she wanted to enjoy, she wanted to be mindful. She wanted to save or, and relish the wonderful taste of the food and not be too full and stuffed, you know, who wants to feel bloated and gross when their food comes. Not really many, any people, but she created a system for herself and she created willpower for herself by just removing half a bag, half of a basket of chips. So that was very interesting.

Rita Black: Now I had another friend and this is another interesting, you don't like, again, you watch these thin people, you can learn from them. So I had this friend, it was a very quirky, but they only ate the insides out of like a cheese Danish or an apple Danish. Like they would only eat the fruit out of the Danish or, you know, like they would go out to eat and I would watch them just kind of like eat like the cheese and then, you know, maybe a quarter of their enchilada and they ate it very slowly. And then maybe they would kind of, you know, um, or not even an enchilada, just like something that you could see that they were like going for certain things. And, and, you know, they would only eat a few bites of other things. And I was like, well, what's up? And, and they, this other friend who told me that I only eat a plus foods, only a plus foods. Like if it's not an amazing food, like then I'm not going to put it in my body. You know, like, I, I really enjoy, and savor really good food, but I've really, you know, I don't have time for the foods that are sub-par, you know, I have a nice taste palette and I want to enjoy the foods that I eat. So, you know, you'd see them eat a couple of bites of something and decide, oh, oh, okay. Yeah, that's not so great. I'm not going to focus on that. And as we all know, or maybe you don't, but you know, after three bites of food, your mouth experience goes down, you know, substantially, maybe 70%. So, for a lot of us, a plus foods are really those first few bites. And then afterwards it all becomes C minus food.

Rita Black: So think about that. That's was something I learned from a thin friend. And, I had this other slim friend, her name was Francine, and this was back in my twenties, I knew her. We worked together and she loved to get hungry. Like she wouldn't eat unless she was hungry, not starved, but hungry. Like she would, you know, even if something amazing crossed her in front of her, she was like, I'm not really hungry and I like to eat when I'm hungry, because then the food tastes really good. I don't think food tastes good if I'm not really hungry. So I'm not going to waste my time. Isn't that interesting.

Rita Black: So there are things to be learned, you know, cause it really reframed my view of thin people as being, you know, these people who could eat all the time and eat all they want. They actually just have cultivated these quirky and interesting rules and ways that they interact with food that allows them to feel like I have the relationship with food that I like, and I love. So those are some thin thinking mental shifts, you know, there's ways to, you know, forgive slim people. And now I want to just finish up with a few tips, right, about skinny people. So first of all, I guess this is thin thinking, okay, I'm going to call it then thinking. So notice your thoughts about skinny people. Just notice your thoughts about them is this thought giving me power or is this thought taking my power away? Is it making me a victim of the thin person or the idea of being thin? Is it giving them more power or is it giving, staying in that place that I am at more power? Is it making, being a, struggling with my weight more powerful than the idea of me becoming slim? Or is it making the idea of being slim unpleasant? Because I believe slim people are annoying. So just shift those thoughts.

Rita Black: And here's one, here's a little mantra. I am moving in the direction of being healthy and slim. I am moving in the direction of being healthy and slim. Here's another mantra. I am curious about the slim people in my life. I am curious about the slim people in my life. Is there something I can learn from them? Here's another one, I am open to appreciating slim people. I am open to appreciating slim people. I am open to appreciating myself and what I have in my life. Here's my last one. My favorite. I am loving myself down the scale. I am loving myself down the scale.

Rita Black: Okay. Wow. We went there, you guys. I hope you enjoy that exploration as much as I did. You know, my apologies if I went too far, but I just really thought that that was something that we really should have a little discussion about. And I feel like we may just be scratching the surface, but we got started. Let me know what you think or any other ideas that you would like to see for episodes here on the Thin Thinking podcast. There is a questionnaire in the show notes. So you just click on that and ask away, I'll get it. And, now putting the slim people aside, I just want to wish you an amazing week. I look forward to seeing you or being here with you next week and remember that the key and probably the only key to unlocking the door, the weight struggle is inside you. So keep listening and find it. See you next week. Everyone.

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