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Rita Black: Do you ever feel like your after work or after dinner snacking is like the invasion of the body snatchers? Except in our case, it's the invasion of the night eating snacker and you feel this overwhelming compulsion to snack, even though you aren't hungry, or even if you promised yourself, you wouldn't. My friend, you are not alone. So join me for part two of my podcast focused on night eating, where we look at thin thinking tools to break through the eating habits that sabotage your weight release attempts so that you can be more consistent and reach your goals.

Rita Black: Did you know that our struggle with weight doesn't start with the food on your plate or get fixed in the gym? 80% of our weight struggle is mental. That's right, the key to unlocking long-term weight release and management begins in your mind. Hi, there I'm Rita black. I'm a clinical hypnotherapist, weight loss expert, best-selling author, and the creator of the Shift Weight Mastery Process. And not only have I helped thousands of people over the past 20 years achieve long-term weight mastery, I am also a former weight struggler, carb addict, and binge eater. And after two decades of failed diets and fad weight loss programs, I lost 40 pounds with the help of hypnosis. Not only did I release all that weight, I have kept it off for 25 years. Enter the Thin Thinking Podcast where you too will learn how to remove the mental roadblocks that keep you struggling. I'll give you the thin thinking tools, skills, and insights to help you develop the mindset you need. Not only to achieve your ideal weight, but to stay there long-term and live your best life.

Rita Black: Hey everyone. I hope you are enjoying a lovely lovely month of May. Today, we are going to dive into part two of putting night eating to sleep. And I was thinking about this episode when I was weeding out in my new front yard, because over the last 10 years, our front yard went to hell. And what I mean by that is, when we bought our house many, many years ago, I redid and I re-landscaped the front yard. I am not, you know, at that point I was not a gardener at all, but I learned some about gardening and I made a nice front yard. And then I had children. And then at the same time as children, I was really building my practice and my career. And every morning when I stepped outside of my house, I looked at my front yard, growing overgrown, the weeds are coming up.

Rita Black: The trees are growing in the wrong place. You know, birds plant these seeds, they turn into trees. And I was like, I got to cut that down. And I just never did. And my husband is, you know, we were both overtired, overworked parents. And then now, with COVID, because we were home more, we had this burst of energy. Our daughter went away to college and all of a sudden, we just said, let's do something about this front yard. And literally we just went at it and just cleared out the entire front yard. I mean, we sent pictures to my daughter, who's away. She's like, Oh my God, what did you do to the front yard? We really took everything out of it. So it was this big dirt heap. And then my husband and I kind of looked at each other and we scratched our heads and we were like, okay, um, now what? And that was what I was thinking about when I was thinking about our night eating episode is clearly I was sick and tired of our front yard.

Rita Black: And so is my husband. And we just got rid of it. Then we were like, huh, we really didn't think through exactly what we wanted to put out there. We couldn't stand it anymore, but we didn't know what we wanted to create. And I think we go about trying to curb our night eating in the same way. You know, we want to just take it all away. And we tend to pull it. We tend to go at it from the outside. These bad behaviors that we have and we've got to curb ourselves and we've got to tame ourselves. And we got to put ourselves in the cage and say, you can't get out. You've got to behave tonight, lock up the cupboards, lock up the fridge no more for you.

Rita Black: And what happens is, you know, maybe we're able to do that for a few nights or a few weeks, but what happens is we create this huge vacuum. And what usually gets happens is when we create a vacuum is air everything that we used to do, just get sucked back in and we fall back into our old patterns. So, fortunately my husband and I came up with a plan for our front yard. And what we're gonna do tonight is come up with a plan for you, and not me, but where I'm going to start to give you some tools to start thinking about the night that you want to create for yourself. Because I really feel the solution to the night eating challenge isn't about taking it away, but it's about creating something new, something better, something that really truly takes care of you in the evening, because our evening should be a time to rejuvenate and unwind, but they shouldn't be eating to numb eating out of, you know, for fun or out of boredom.

Rita Black: And then ending up feeling bad, stressed and anxious at the end of the night and going to bed, maybe with food in our stomach, not getting a good night's sleep. So really the challenge is that the habits we have in place really don't do what we think they're going to do, relax us, reward us. They actually take that away from us ultimately. So in order to start on this journey, I really believe the first tool is to believe that you can make this change. I think so often we make these half-hearted attempts. We try to stop and we aren't successful. So we have, like, we sort of have a negative belief of ourselves and our ability to make this change. And I want that to end. All right, now I want you to know that you absolutely can create an evening you love, but you need to believe that you can.

Rita Black: And even all of the attempts that you have maybe made and maybe didn't follow through. The good news is they are all attempts that will add to your journey forward because you probably learned some things in those attempts. You know, we can always look to our past in two ways, we can look at it as evidence that we will not succeed in the future, that we're not capable of succeeding, or we can look at the past and go, Oh, wasn't that an amazing experience that is going to lead up to my finally solving the challenge, right? So let's let all of our past experiences with night eating lead up to a fabulous breakthrough that we are going to create and in our journey moving forward. And I feel like the first part of believing in yourself is to forgive yourself.

Rita Black: Like I said, we do a lot of beating of ourselves at the end of the evening or the morning after, why did I do that last night? I didn't want to do it. I'm going to be better tonight than we aren't better tonight, yada, yada, yada. And we beat ourselves up and have a very negative viewpoint of ourselves and we think we're hopeless. So it's not your fault. You know, let me remind you, it, isn't your fault. I assure you. And if you didn't listen to the first episode, I really want you to go back and listen to it. Because if you do have an eating challenge, I get into the first, in the first episode, I get into all the reasons why it's really not your fault. And they're all very valid reasons. So go give that a listen. So, you know, you do have to forgive yourself and you do have to get on your own team in order to believe in yourself, you can't be against yourself.

Rita Black: You can't think negatively of yourself and really put yourself on any transformational journey. You need to start from a place of, I have value. I am worthy. I am smart, and I can figure this out. So I believe in you, I know you can do this. And I had to forgive myself for letting my garden go to crap. Believe me. I have a lot of shame about that. You know, I'd look at that and I'd say better people than me would have, or, you know, people better than me would have gone out every weekend. And even though they had a lot of work, and even though they had two kids, they would have waited their garden. They would have chopped down those trees that were those rogue trees that dare to grow, you know, in places that, you know, no other tree would grow.

Rita Black: I am a bad person. I shouldn't have shame. You know, I look at my neighbors when I first moved into our neighborhood, our neighborhood was just trash. Like it was such a beat up neighborhood. It needed a lot of love, but over the years, our neighborhood, really, a lot of people moved into the neighborhood, gave it a lot of love and it looks awesome. People work on their yards, they look lovely and our yard, it looks fine, but it was just like a little too bushy, a little too overgrown. And I had a little neighborhood shame. So, you know, I need to give myself my own inner coach for my garden, which I am cultivating. And now my husband and I are, like I said, we're creating this brand new, fabulous garden. I'm very excited about it as a drought tolerant English cottage garden. I love English cottage gardening, and we're doing a drought tolerant version. It's really exciting. It's a very fun project, but we had to have that vision and we had to kind of come up with it first and then get excited about it and then start to go implementing it. So, I had to get my critic out of my head and start this gardening project. And you need to get your critic out of your head and get that coach in your head and begin creating a powerful evening that allows you to release weight instead of consistently sabotage yourself.

Rita Black: So just humor me. I want you to repeat after me. I forgive myself and my night eating pattern. Just do it, just do it. Even if you feel like it's silly, you know, sometimes it's silly things are what makes our brain stretch enough to really make a difference. So I'm going to say this and, I'm just going to have you repeat it after me powerfully in your, you don't need to say it out loud, just powerfully in your own mind. I forgive myself and my night eating pattern. Good. And again, I forgive myself and my night eating pattern. And again, I forgive myself and my night eating pattern. All right. Now another one I believe I can create an evening that I love I believe I can create an evening that I love.

Rita Black: Yeah, I believe I can create an evening that I love. Good. Now you are on your night eating remodeling team. Now the next tool is vision, and we did talk about vision in episode one. So I'm going to just revisit this quick for people who weren't here for episode one, but also to reinforce with you. I gave you some homework. I don't know if you follow through with it, but I said to create a vision, start to create a vision of the, how you want to go to bed at the end of the evening, feeling, how did you want to feel at the end of your evening? I quoted Steven Kovey, who is the guru of the seven habits of highly effective people, or highly successful people effective and successful begin with the end in mind. So in order to transform our evenings, I want you to start to really focus on how you want to feel getting into bed at night.

Rita Black: How do you want to feel light that you rejuvenated yourself, that you took care of yourself, and what is that going to start to require? You know, that your brain doesn't really process don'ts. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do that. I don't want to snack after dinner. I don't want to eat popcorn. I don't want to reach in the cupboard and get the chocolate out. Don't don't don't brand. Doesn't really hear it. It hears, I want ate popcorn. I want a have chocolate. So we wanted focus on what we want to create, what not, what we don't want to do. Okay. So, and again, we want to create and give ourselves something, rather than this idea of slapping ourselves on the wrist and taking things away, and you want to create something that the brain says, wow, that would be really cool.

Rita Black: You know, like children, you can't take a toy away from them unless you're offering them something else. You know what I mean? Like, or if a child is tantruming and wanting something, your biggest and best bet with getting that child out of the tantrum is to say over here and look, this is really amazing. And look, this is going to be so fantastic for you. And you're refocusing that child's brain, you're literally taking them out of an upset state and refocusing their brain on something that elevates their brain out of that tantrum mode. And that's kind of what we have to do with our night eating. We're saying here, this route is actually going to be, this option is going to be so amazing for you. Look at that. And then that's the way that we dive into this is offering ourselves these newer options.

Rita Black: Now, first of all, you probably understand that most of your night eating runs pretty much on automatic. You really don't even night eat anymore. The night eating is eating you basically, it's all running pretty much on automatic pilot below your consciousness. Most people's night eating or snacking happens in a pattern of habits certain times, you know, coming home when we come home or certain times after dinner, certain situations in front of the TV, in front of our computer, in the kitchen, out on our back patio, certain foods and drinks, for instance, one client Bonnie had a typical pattern I see a lot and she told me Rita, I eat dinner and it's pretty healthy. And usually I've been pretty good most of the day. And then a half hour later, when I'm watching TV with my husband, we have some ice cream as our treat and we eat it just while we're watching the TV.

Rita Black: And then a little while later after the first TV show's ending, and I'm not even hungry, but I start feeling hungry. My mouth starts watering and I feel this hunger, I shouldn't be hungry, but I kind of feel this hunger. And I'm not thinking about the TV anymore. And I'm thinking about popcorn and I'm trying not to eat it. I'm trying not to eat the popcorn, but the urge just becomes overpowering. And I can't focus and I get up and I make the popcorn and I eat most of it while I watched the next TV show. And I'm not even really paying attention to the popcorn. I'm not even really paying attention to the TV show. The whole thing, I just eat the whole bag of the popcorn. So first it's the ice cream and then it's the salty popcorn. And then my husband goes to bed and I'm all alone.

Rita Black: And I feel like now that I'm alone, I need a little party in my mouth for me. I need something sweet. And usually what I reach for is the chocolate covered almonds, because I say to myself, almonds are healthy and dark chocolate. Oh, it's so healthy for you, all those healthy phytochemicals. So it's all I'll just eat a few. But a few of those chocolate almonds ends up being a lot of chocolate almonds. And then by the end of the night, I've eaten way more than I needed. And you know, this is the main reason that I, yo yo, it's not my behaviors at all during the day. It's, everything is at night and I don't get anywhere with my weight loss and the party. Isn't so fun in my mouth anymore. I just feel gross and mad with myself. So if we looked at Bonnie's night eating, we could definitely see a pattern.

Rita Black: And this pattern has become very established habit. Number one, Bonnie eat some ice cream with her husband and the dopamine center in her brain has said, Oh, that ice cream, it got a little hit from the ice cream. That's fun. And with her husband, that's fun. Let's keep doing that because that's what the dopamine brain does. It's like, Ooh, that was fun. This was good for us. Let's put that on automatic pilot. So after a couple of times, guess what it is. It moved from the front of the brain to the back of the brain, in the habit part of the brain. And pretty soon again, and again, it's a subconscious habit. And then the same with habit. Number two, the popcorn it's nice. It's entertaining. It's something to get up and do, especially because TV gets a little boring, it can get a little boring and it looks like that's what's happening for Bonnie.

Rita Black: Is that the TV after TV show number one, it gets a little boring for her. I remember for me with my own night eating pattern, it was such a revelation for me when I realized that the reason I was getting up so many times to go into the and to eat was that TV, the television shows I was watching were boring. You know, I usually was watching with my husband. He wanted to watch something and I was like, Oh, I'm a little bored. And so I would get up because the food was more entertaining than to the TV. My nights changed completely when I said, Hmm, maybe I'm going to turn off that TV or not watch TV with my husband and get into something I'm really interested in like reading. That's when I started doing research and studying. And so I really cannot say enough that sometimes when we're eating with the TV, maybe the TV show isn't that riveting and it's time to turn it off and get into something else.

Rita Black: But so habit number two for Bonnie was popping that old corn and eating in front of the TV. And then that habit number three, was that chocolate at the end of the night, that night party in her mouth. And again, we can't have too much of a good thing. And so her brain, again, put that on automatic pilot and it works. Let's keep it in there. And so pretty soon, Bonnie has a repeatable pattern that expects itself to be repeated over and over. So what happens when Bonnie tries not to do it and tries just to suck it up and not do it? Well, the urge really becomes strong. Like she said, that urge not to like when she tried not to eat the popcorn, the urge is very strong and what's going on at that time. Usually when you're feeling an urge like that is the dopamine center in the brain is bugging you.

Rita Black: It's like, I want this. It's like a child. I want it. I want it. I want it. I want it. You're not really hungry. It might feel like hunger. It might feel like your, your mouth is watering. I want you to think of a phone ringing. I use this a lot with my smoking clients. This metaphor is like, when a phone rings, like if I had my cell phone and it started to ring here while I was in the podcast and it was like ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring. And I was like, Oh, you guys just ignore that. I'm just gonna let it keep ringing, but I'm going to keep talking to you. Ring, ring, ring. Oh, and this and that ring ring ring. It starts, you would start to be annoyed. He starts to be like, when is she going to pick up the phone?

Rita Black: Because we expect that a ringing phone is going to be picked up. And so we start to become agitated. If somebody doesn't pick up their ringing phone, it becomes agitating, and we start to lose focus. And so then if, for what if I was like, Oh, you guys, you know, I'm going to pick up this phone and I pick it up. Oh, you would feel relief. Right? So with Bonnie and the popcorn, what is happening is the popcorn phone is ringing because the brain expects, Hey, it's time for the popcorn. And the popcorn phone is ringing ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, ring, Bonnie. I'm not going to eat that. I'm not going to eat that ring ring, ring, come and pick me up, come and pick me up, come in, pick me up. I'm expecting you. I'm expecting you. She gets up.

Rita Black: And she goes, and she starts to pop the popcorn. Maybe you've experienced this as well. And she starts to calm down weirdly then, you know, cause our brain is kind of weird. Our brain starts to associate the popping corn with relaxation, even though the agitation came from the expectation that the popcorn is going to happen. So we get into this weird agitation relief response system in the evening, we expect that that treat or thing is supposed to happen. Then we go to get it. And we feel that release and relief and the brains go see popcorn relaxes me, see chocolate relaxes me, see, sitting in front of the TV and eating ice cream relaxes as even though it actually doesn't necessarily do that. And then of course, Bonnie says she doesn't even experience the popcorn because, you know, after three bites of any food or mouth experience really goes down substantially, like from 90% down to 20%.

Rita Black: So often, you know, we'll eat a few bites of whatever that food is that we want. And then the rest of the time, we're just kind of watching the TV and shoveling it in and not really even experiencing the food. Now, in addition to this as another very important factor that we have to consider is the fact the brain also wires and everything else that happens around the food. Right? So with the ice cream, Bonnie is sitting and having an intimate moment with her husband, meaning they're sitting together, they're watching television and it's probably their time together at night. So what happens is the ice cream becomes in Bonnie's mind a porthole into her intimacy with her husband. So it represents, you know, ice cream equals TV equals relaxation, equals special time with her husband, right? It's not just the ice cream itself, but everything that it represents, that's why we often think of food as fun because often fun times are happening around like when a birthday party, Oh, birthday cake is fun.

Rita Black: Well, a lot of the stuff that happens around the birthday cake, maybe fun, you know, for her, the popcorn, it provides like a reprieve from the television. So, you know, the popcorn equals a break. It equals time alone in the kitchen. It equals kind of staring there and being in a trance state, you know, for her, maybe that is a bit of a break, the chocolate in the evening after her husband goes to bed that represents her free time. Her time that she connects with herself, like she said, a party in her mouth. It's like her little like woo hoo, I'm alone. And it's the end of the night and is my time to have fun. A lot of parents get into these, like when the other person goes to bed that that's like the time a lot of people will night eat, you know, Oh, I'm finally alone.

Rita Black: I get to do what I want to do. And what do we do? Well, we eat, right? So we associate the food with everything else that is going on around the food. So the food becomes a portal into these experiences that our brain values. And then the brain wants, thinks, Oh, ice cream equals intimacy, popcorn equals a break or our entertainment, chocolate covered almonds equals a party and fun, good times with myself, right? So the irony is that when we do indulge in these things, often they take away that thing that we think we're going to get that intimacy with our husband, but then Bonnie will eat too much ice cream and then feel bad. We'll have that popcorn and we think it's entertaining. But then again, we eat the whole bag and then we feel bad.

Rita Black: We eat too many, the chocolate almonds, the party, all of a sudden is not a party anymore. So ironically, the brain is sort of short term pleasure oriented that dopamine center. It doesn't think everything through. And that's why in the last episode I talked about like really, when you think your whole entire evening through to the end, how you want to go to bed at that's, why begin with the end in mind is so important is because you really want to say the behaviors that I'm creating in the evening want to come to that end. I want to feel light, lean. Like I went to bed really taking care of myself this evening really, and truly rejuvenating myself rather than using these fake portals of fun and intimacy. I want to try, I want to find true portals into intimacy and entertainment and fun.

Rita Black: So how do we begin to change? Well, we have to come to our night eating from really looking into our nights and what we need from them. As far as rejuvenating and giving ourselves self care. We aren't eating because we're out of control, but because we have wired it in as what we perceive as a pattern of self care. So look at your current night eating structure and start to consider what it gives you for many people. It's like I said, it's entertainment, it's something to do while watching TV. It's intimacy. Maybe if you're doing it with a child or with your husband or a partner or your dog, or, you know, another being, or maybe it's something that represents the end of the day to your reward because I work hard, and I deserve it. So let's break down how Bonnie began to break down things for herself to start to see what she needed.

Rita Black: So the ice cream with the husband obviously is a bonding experience and Bonnie needs connecting time with our husband often. If you're in a relationship with somebody, substances become connecting objects, right? Like alcohol, you know, I work with smokers as smoking. If a couple smokes together, the cigarette becomes an intimacy point, meaning a portal into intimacy, the same thing with food. Often a spouse will bring their spouse like, Oh, you know, a treat, Oh, we're going to eat this together. We're going to be bad together. We're going to do this together. It becomes a point of intimacy. So she recognized that. And then she also recognized that after an hour of TV, she was bored and the popcorn was entertainment. And then that thing with the chocolates and connecting to herself, the party was the almonds.

Rita Black: So to break it down further. So at the end of the day, Bonnie recognized that what she needed was connecting time with her husband, some time in front of the TV to relax and numb out for a bit until it got too dull. And then she needed some entertainment, something a little deeper and beyond TV. And then she needed some time when her husband went to bed to connect with herself, just to unwind with herself. So one thing that you can begin to ask yourself, like your own inner coach is how can I really care for myself at night? What do I really need? Maybe it's time to exercise and do something like yoga and to stretch, or maybe it's to take a bath and maybe it's time to connect with somebody like you call them FaceTime, or maybe it's to connect with somebody in your household if you've been neglecting them.

Rita Black: And instead of eating, going and connecting with somebody else, maybe it's totally to detach by doing something like meditation. Maybe it is relaxation where you are sitting in front of the television, but we often don't ask ourselves, like, we love ourselves. What is it that I truly need at night that will get me to that vision of going to bed, feeling rejuvenated, light, and like I really took care of myself. And once you do, your mind will start exploring. It will start offering you answers. And very much like my gardening, it's some plants that I plant may die along the way. I'm very well aware of that. And some of the ideas that you come up with and maybe like those plants, they might not be the best ideas in the world, but you got to try and you got to explore and you've got to play and, and figure this out and go at this like a project worth having, because let's face it.

Rita Black: Our evenings are a huge part of our life. And if you are on a journey of weight mastery, your evenings are a very big part of your weight mastery. So this is absolutely worth it. And I will tell you, when you start figuring your evening out, you are going to be so proud of yourself and so happy. So like Bonnie, what she did was started to shift those eating episode in her mind, instead of this idea of taking them away, she started to create something new. So she was going to refocus her mind on a new nightly pattern of habits that gave her what she needed without the food. So she enrolled her husband and they decided instead of ice cream and connecting that they will, they would cuddle and that they were going to talk. So they were going to actually create a new portal into their intimacy by sitting on the couch together and cuddling and talking before they even turned on the TV, and the cuddling time. And Bonnie's mind was that first part of the pattern, what you would call the cue or the portal into the pattern that she was creating.

Rita Black: Then she and her husband zoned out in front of the TV, pretty much as business as usual without the ice cream. So, but she recognized that, so that zoning out in front of her television in the evening was a nice part of our evening that she didn't want to change. So she changed the portal into the first behavior. She transitioned in the next behavior. That was just fine for her. But then instead of popcorn, when the show was over, she recognized that she was kind of done with television after that first show. And she decided instead, what she was going to do was make herself a cup of herbal tea and then read a book because she liked to read, but she had just gotten out of the habit of reading. So it was her new assignment for herself was to start to get back into reading and to get plea on the couch and read her book while her husband continued to watch TV.

Rita Black: And then finally, when her husband went to bed, she came up with a whole new plan to take a bath and sort of meditate and burn a candle and just completely unwind. So this was her new party with herself was to luxuriate in a nice bath with her candle, right? So she was still having that connection time with herself and actually much, much better way, uh, because she wasn't dolling herself with food and ended up feeling regretful, but she ended up feeling fantastic. Like she really was able to, in her time in her bath, think about the day, let go of the day and think about the coming day and really get prepared for that. And I will tell you that those reflection times in our day are so powerful. Some people really like to journal at night. And I think that that's a fantastic idea.

Rita Black: A lot of processing happens when we journal or when we meditate or give our assigned time to zone out with ourselves and just let our thoughts go and think about things, think about the day and you know, okay, well, what happened today? Let me let that go. Let me think about what I'm going to do tomorrow. These are very powerful times that we have with ourselves and I really consider them essential because they allow us to create our lives rather than our lives living us, rather than us living defensively. We begin to live off offensively. So do in your evenings, when you're starting to create your evenings set aside some reflection time, set aside some time to either journal or exercise where you're really kind of like walking where you're thinking about your day, letting it go, or meditation, like doing something where you're sitting in the bath or you're stretching.

Rita Black: And you're just allowing, maybe doing yoga and just thinking about the day, connecting with yourself, giving yourself some time to have like a little inner chat with yourself and move yourself forward in your life, because it can really, really begin to be a very, very important potent and powerful part of your day. So that's just my coaching there as something that you might add into your evening, and Bonnie was able to really see some powerful changes in her evening. She told me that she finished them feeling so proud, really rejuvenated, especially she loved the new thing of taking a bath and she loved to go to bed on that lighter stomach. And it showed up on the scale and yeah, she back slid and some nights she and her husband ate ice cream, but she kept working on improving. She kept at it and in the summertime, she and her husband started biking after dinner.

Rita Black: And sometimes her baths were just reading more of her book or flipping through Instagram. But the point is that Bonnie shifted and came from using her mind more powerfully. What do I need for my nights? How will I structure them so that they allow me to feel wonderful at the end of the evening. And Bonnie got back her nights, she created a wonderful night for herself that was fulfilling. And so can you, and as for my garden, now that I've got my vision and I'm creating my new drop tolerant English cottage style garden. I am excited about it. I have killed a few plants. I will probably even kill a few more plans between now and the time that I figure it all out, but I am going to get there and I'm going to have a garden. I love that I can sit and enjoy and look at, and you are going to create an evening that you love.

Rita Black: So don't give up. Now, if you're interested in having more coaching and hypnosis and a useful meditation session to help you break out of night eating, please go to the show notes and click on the link to get my free five day hypnosis based micro process Lights Out On Night Eating, or you can go to my website, It's also there, but they are in the show notes. And give us a review. I love hearing what you like about this show and any questions for me, any episode ideas, please use the link below. There's a link where you can give me your ideas, and it's in the show notes. So please submit them and please have a wonderful week. I hope you do. And remember that the key and probably the only key to unlocking the door of the weight struggle is inside you. So keep listening and find it.

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